Nicky Cooper | Nurse, Therapist & Storyteller
A nurse, therapist and storyteller working with people like you who are holding more than they can say, to help them make sense of what they’re carrying.
Nelson, Aotearoa New Zealand · Online worldwide
You've been strong for so long, you've forgotten what it feels like to be held in a way that lets you breathe.
You're the one people lean on. The one who keeps going. The one who holds it together while quietly coming apart inside. And somewhere along the way, you stopped being able to tell anyone, maybe even yourself, how much you're actually carrying.
It's not burnout exactly. It's more like you've been away from yourself for a long time, that you can't quite find your way back.
There may be moments where nothing looks particularly wrong from the outside, and yet something inside of you feels harder to place than it used to.
Life continues in all the usual ways, but your sense of being fully inside it doesn’t feel as steady as it once did. It’s not easy to explain, and most people probably won’t have noticed much has changed, but you can feel it.
This doesn’t mean you’re failing or that something is wrong with you. More often it’s what happens when you’ve had to adapt over time, until those ways of coping start to feel like identity.
When something is witnessed long enough, it begins to remember itself.
Some things don't need solving. They need to be witnessed long enough that they begin to make sense again.
Nothing about you has been lost, even if it hasn’t felt that way for a while.
I think things become harder and feel out of reach when life has required you to stay elsewhere for a time.
You don't need a programme, a framework or a fix. You need to be met here with what’s actually happening.
1:1 Nervous System & Emotional Support
Gentle, deep, unhurried work for individuals who are exhausted, overwhelmed, stuck, or quietly unravelling, to help you reconnect with yourself. Drawing on Clinical Hypnotherapy, Havening, somatic and relational approaches, coaching, and energy work, we go at your pace, not the world’s.
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Parenting Support & Circle of Security™
For parents, caregivers, and teachers who want to understand what’s happening beneath behaviour, their child’s, and their own.
Circle of Security™ groups, one-to-one parenting support, and practical tools grounded in attachment science and nervous system awareness.
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Workshops, Groups & Professional Development
For organisations, schools, health teams, and community groups.
Trauma, neurodiversity, attachment, and nervous system regulation from lived clinical experience, not theory alone.
How Can I Help?
If you want to understand how I work, you can start here.
Most people are looking for answers. You're looking for someone who understands the question.
Not sure where to start?
A free 20-minute call, a real conversation, not a sales call.
If I'm the right person to help you, we'll know. And If I'm not, I'll do my very best to point you somewhere that is.
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or email me: coaching@nickycooper.life
BOOK
My Latest Book is Out Now
The 7-Day Sabbatical: A Nurse's Guide to the Inner Work
Our Stories. Our Way Back.
I wrote this book alone in a forest cabin, doing the inner work myself first. It’s seven days of guided stories, science, practices, meditations and journal questions, written for the ones who have held it all together for everyone else, and forgotten themselves along the way.
Some books you read. This one reads you.
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Read more about my writing & reflections →
I'm Nicky Cooper
Nurse. Therapist. Educator. Writer. Storyteller.
For almost 40 years I’ve worked at the edges, hospitals, homes, hospices, and the quiet spaces where people fall apart and come back together.
I am a Registered Nurse with a Masters degree, Clinical Hypnotherapist, Havening Practitioner, Coach, Reiki Master, Circle of Security facilitator.
But more than any of that: I’ve learned that what most people need isn’t advice, it’s a companion.
What People Are Saying
"Nicky has the gift for knowing the right question at the right time, or using silence. She expresses a natural empathy, validating fears and feelings with respect and sensitivity. Difficult conversations were held with transparency, clarity, and understanding. A wonderful person, and no higher accolade,
a good, safe person."
Colleen K R
